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Why Men Run
As a Psychic Reader “why men run” is another popular question. Women are
desperately trying to understand why things seemed like they were going
so well, and then there man seems to head for the hills, leaving them
scratching their heads. From my experience of tuning into them and
researching the mentality, behaviors and psychology here are the best
synapses I can give.
There are three main reasons behind a dart for the opposite direction.
Each reason seems to drive the sprint just as powerfully, and sometimes
it is a mixture that sends him fleeing.
1) He’s just not that into you. (If you haven’t read the book I highly
recommend it. It is a bit harsh, but the truth of it shines through.)
As much as you would like to think he is really into you…he’s not that
into you. If you are more into him than he is into you…it makes him
nervous. Already he is anticipating having to let you down and possibly
hurt you. If he cares, letting you down and hurting you is the last
thing he wants to do, and guys hate feeling like the bad guy. They like
to avoid that at all costs. Unfortunately in their attempt to avoid it,
they usually fumble and end up dropping the ball, ending up with the
results they were trying to avoid. That makes for a more uncomfortable
mess…and they hate being the source of a girl’s tears and messy
emotions. So to keep life simple, and not get into a mess….they run.
Don’t chase them; it is just a matter of time before they are running
again. Why? Because bottom line, they’re just not that into you.
2) He doesn’t think he can please you. He does not want to look like a
failure. If he thinks you are difficult to please by his standards, he
just sees things as more trouble than they are worth, and will move on
to some one else that is easier to please. That way he can maintain his
self esteem and avoid getting messy. Men need to be ready and mature.
Mature enough to feel they have a decent handle on their own lives
because they see taking on relationship as an extra job. Men are very
performance oriented for they base a lot of their self esteem on it.
They want and need to feel they perform well in their work, income
potential, friendships to feel good about themselves. They see
relationship as coming with the responsibility of performing at pleasing
their woman….in other words keeping her happy. That is a job for most
men, and if they think they can’t perform well at it they would rather
run for the hills then disappoint themselves and their woman.
3) He’s scared. I will never forget talking with my Dad when I was a
teen and he told me a story about meeting a woman that really moved him.
You could tell just by the way he spoke of her. And years later, it was
obvious, he hadn’t forgotten her. He said he knew she would have changed
his life, and by his tone and body language, it was a change that would
have lifted him to incredible heights. He said he ran, avoided her at
all costs, so as not to put himself in dangers way. Why? Because a lot
of men are afraid of that incredible wave of emotion, intimacy, and
energy surge that goes with being vulnerable and giving yourself over to
a deep fulfilling bond with another. If they have had a glimmer that the
connection with you, might bring them to new heights, they feel like
they got hit with a wind that just might knock them over. That is scary.
Often too scary to take on the challenge of indulging and discovering
they just might really like it and succeed. It isn’t until they have
matured that they are willing to take the risk and discover that
following that powerful wind makes them better men inside which enhances
their ability to perform in the rest of their world, and there wasn’t
anything to fear after all. If you think he is running for this reason,
take it as a grand compliment. It means he is really moved by you. You
probably will never be forgotten. Unfortunately it may be a missed
golden opportunity, but as a woman, you should just move on to one that
feels they can handle it.
Your
spiritual journey is an adventure of
personal
development and mastering
life
skills, that will create
treasures for
the soul. May you discover divine insight from a
psychic reader, or
a unique online
reading, and capture valuable wisdom in your spiritual
online journal.
Hope you
enjoyed these words on.
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